5 Tips to help you achieve a ‘good divorce’

Going through a divorce can be one of the most stressful times in our lives. Worries about money and the family home, coupled with the emotional stress of our relationship coming to an end and concerns about how any children will cope, mean that, in reality, there is often no such thing as a truly ‘good divorce’.

However, there are some things that you could do, that may help you to ensure that your divorce process runs as smoothly as possible.

Consider counselling

It may be too late to save your marriage but counselling can serve another purpose. Seeking counselling with your spouse before you divorce, can be a good way to help you both manage your emotions and begin to see how you might move on after the divorce is over.

It can also help you to open up and improve communication with your partner, which may help when it comes to negotiating your financial settlement.

Communication is important

Good communication is essential for divorce negotiations. If you find it difficult to talk with your spouse, your respective solicitors can conduct the negotiations on your behalf.

You could also consider mediation, where an impartial third party helps you to discuss and resolve any issues (including financial matters and child living arrangements).

As per point number 1, communicating your feelings to a counsellor (with or without your spouse present) can also help you to work through any issues.

Children whose parents are divorcing, may also be going through a very difficult time, so it’s important to keep lines of communication open and address any worries or concerns they may have. Sometimes, children blame themselves for their parents’ divorce. It’s important to reassure them, as often as necessary, that it is not their fault.

Think about who you’re communicating with

Most divorces impact not just the couple, but also friends and family. If you spend too much time ‘badmouthing’ your spouse, friends may feel torn between you and your spouse. The same goes for children. Feeling that they have to take sides, can add to the stress in what can often be an extremely upsetting time.

“Positivity” breeds “Positivity”

Although not many people going through a divorce have positive feelings towards their spouse, it can help to remember that things weren’t always so bad. At some point in the past, you were probably in love with each other.

It can be challenging, but trying to keep this in mind and being civil to your spouse during the divorce proceedings (and in the future) could result in a much less difficult time.

As hard as it can be, putting a positive spin on events can also help you to maintain a positive outlook throughout the process.

Seek professional help

Speaking to an experienced solicitor about your concerns, can help you to clarify your position and understand what your financial settlement may look like upon divorce. You may find that meeting with a solicitor to talk though your worries, could even put your mind at rest.

How can our expert divorce solicitors help you?

Our expert divorce solicitors can help you with a range of legal issues, including:

• Prenuptial agreements
• Cohabitation agreements
• Post civil partnership agreements
• Divorce
• Domestic violence and harassment
• Child maintenance
• Child contact arrangements
• Divorce financial provisions

Contact our expert divorce solicitors to see how we can help with your divorce

For more information on the divorce process call our expert divorce solicitors on 0845 862 5001 or email mail@austinkemp.co.uk.

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